Diagnosis Infertility: Now What?

Posted by on Sep 11, 2012 in Blog | 0 comments

If you have recently received an infertility diagnosis from your physician, or perhaps diagnosed yourself based on information you accessed from the world wide web, you are likely feeling overwhelmed, scared, and uncertain.  There are many other feelings that may have come and gone, only to resurface again the next day, week, or month.

One of the most overwhelming things about being diagnosed with infertility is that the number of decisions to be made are numerous and varied.  Knowing what to do and when to do it are significant challenges for women and couples.  One reason this is true is that technology offers much hope, and many options for family building.  Choosing which path to pursue, when, and for how long are only some of the many difficult choices to be made.

So where do you start?  First take a deep breath.  Then another.   Sit down with your partner/spouse and establish a timeline which you will use to make your decisions.  Look at the journey to become parents as you would any other major life event that requires planning and good decision-making.  For some people, making a decision tree can be helpful.  Many of my clients develop a Fertility Plan to be used as a guide for discussions, defining hopes and dreams, and also setting limitations.

It is important to be kind to yourself and your partner and accept that you are dealing with a medical diagnosis that has been defined by mental health professionals as a life crisis.  Learning to cope with all of the difficult emotions and psychological pain takes time, and patience.  If you are struggling with coping individually, or as a couple, get help.  Coping effectively will help you feel better, and make decision-making easier too!

*image courtesy joe houghton / creative commons